ANINERGY

365 ways to energize – a daily companion to living with health, purpose, and joy


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One way to keep romance alive

Day 153
Celebrating lasting love

My husband and I have for the third time celebrated our friends’ marriage with a big party. The 1st time was when they got married the 3rd of June 1995.

The second time, when we celebrated their 10-year anniversary the 3rd of June 2005, and today 20 years later have we celebrated their love for each other once again.

Day 153dI think it is a beautiful commitment that our friends made to one other when they agreed to renew their vows with the same wedding guests every 10 years. It is for sure a great achievement to live with love year after year, and stay with one another and endure and work through tough and challenging years.

day 153cMost marriages are full of love, hopes and excitement initially. More than fifty percent eventually ends with the opposite emotions and in divorce.

What goes wrong…?

What if more couples decided to celebrate their love and anniversary in a more engaged way? Would fewer couple take each other for granted? Would more marriages be happy and survive?

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What do you do when you are bored?

Day 152How and when does boredom arise?

When a person has more energy and time – than engaging things to do.

Do you sometimes feel bored? There are for sure many students on school vacation and even graduate students that are feeling bored right now, unless they are vacationing with friends, have found a summer job, or something that feels meaningful for them to do.

A student’s life is most often completely packed with schoolwork (which also many think is boring) and extra curricular activities. When the daily routine is gone, and nothing is scheduled, many free students do not know what to do with themselves and their time, unless they are engaged in sports, or some hobby. Not only students feel this way…. many people who regularly are working long hours have a hard time doing nothing, or too little during their vacations.

To be bored can feel painful and like a real energy drainer, which is why most people get busy occupying themselves doing something, and sometimes mindless things, which are not necessarily fulfilling. To hang out with friends, shop, watch movies, listen to music and party are activities that most people default to, to avoid the void. There is nothing wrong with those activities, but done in excess, or as a Band-Aid, will not give true fulfillment. There may always be an undertone of boredom during these types of activities.

How about hanging out and allowing ourselves to be ok with emptiness and ask ourselves some good questions when we feel little bored? I wonder what impact this would have… Does perhaps boredom stimulate creativity?

PS The men in the picture perhaps seems to have nothing compared to many of us, but I hardly believe they often feel bored. Why…?


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Taking off on too much coffee

DAy 151The mystery of indulgence

For those of you who have followed me for a while; you know that I took a sabbatical from any stimulants such as coffee, tea with caffeine and alcohol for two weeks.

It was – surprisingly – not hard to take this break and it did me really well. I noticed a shift in my sense of inner calmness, and I enjoyed my own company feeling wholesome. My energy level was good, despite not having any stimulants.

I reintroduced the stimulants again a week ago and have chosen to consume smaller doses of tea and alcohol to maintain the calm sensation. I normally do not drink much coffee as it often makes me a bit too wired.

I woke up feeling very tired from lack of sleep and since I had an unusually hectic program today with several meetings among them one long four-hour meeting as well as close to five-hours of driving, plus some important and pressing decisions to make, I felt inclined to have a cup of coffee to get me started. It did me well, so I went for another cup very shortly thereafter. When that cup also felt ok, I even went for a third cup after lunch and I can tell you, that this was not a very good idea. To drink that much coffee – for someone like me who only drink coffee from time to time, it meant going into a spin that felt horrible.

What was I thinking? Well, that’s it. I wasn’t really thinking. Was I avoiding something? Perhaps… It is known that pain lies at the bottom of any addiction, and that self-indulgence goes hand in hand with addiction. Was I hoping for a different outcome than what I was used to having in the past…? Isn’t that the sign of insanity, to make the same mistake all over again expecting a different outcome, according to Einstein? As I took the third cup I knew I was playing with fire, but I decided to go for it and deal with the consequences later.

Looking back at it now, I cannot understand what came over me. Why did I let myself loose connection with my body and mind and allow myself to indulge this way? What happened to my usual strong willpower?

When we do not get off to a good start in the morning or something challenging happens during the day, it can be easy to get off balance. If we don’t stop and connect with ourselves, but instead keep making wobbly steps, we will keep on going further off balance – instead of what we really need, which is to be gentle and kind to ourselves by bringing us back to balance and a state of wellbeing.

What effect does coffee and other stimulants have on you? Do you sometimes indulge instead of looking at your fear or pain?