365 ways to energize – a daily companion to living with health, purpose, and joy

Develop your freedom to be

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Day 112Learn to be free

Having the freedom to be ourselves is energizing and empowering. Feeling free is one of my highest values.

Being free, requires that we say yes to that which is important to us, as well as setting healthy boundaries, by saying no to those things that do not go in alignment with our values, believes and wants. This is not always an easy task because we often want to be nice. But nice doesn’t mean that we have to accept that people walk over us. Brene Brown, reminds us that “daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.”

Setting boundaries is healthy and a way of caring for ourselves. We have to learn to respect and take care of ourselves and understand that if we try to be everything for everyone else, we lose ourselves.

Take a look at your life; how often do you feel yourself becoming angry, resentful, or exhausted? If you visit any of those emotions regularly, you have most likely not been setting a healthy boundary.

Terri Cole, says that “at first, you will probably feel selfish, guilty, or embarrassed when you set a boundary. Do it anyway and tell yourself you have the right to self-care. Setting boundaries takes practice and determination. Don’t let anxiety or low self-esteem prevent you from taking care of yourself.”

One thought on “Develop your freedom to be

  1. Such an important topic and there is a lot of us who find it easier to say yes to people, events and things than no and make healthy priorities to avoid feeling stressed out and “stuck”. it is not only about feeling the need of being nice I also think that we often are to scared to miss out on things and opportunities .The great value of everything available and in reach makes it harder for us to say no when we need to. Courage to both be yourself and daring to prioritize and say no more often to keep our sense of freedom!


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