Married to probably the best husband in the world!

April 2, 2015 by aninergy 8 Comments

Marriage works if we do the work

Today is my wonderful husbands’ birthday, and I think he probably is the best husband in the world. He for sure is the best husband for me.

What about you? Do you also feel that you are married to the best husband or wife in the world? I hope so! If you do not feel that way, perhaps you can make him or her into the best one….Do you think that is possible…?

My husband and I have been together for 25 years this year and we are becoming closer as each year goes by. We love each others company, our communication is open, honest and smooth (most of the time), and we are more generous and giving towards each another than possibly ever before.

Our relationship has however not always been a dance on roses. We both have learned and realized that a healthy nurturing relationship requires time and can sometimes feel like hard work. It has taken us years to find our way and come to this level of profound loving connection. Even though we have had bumps on the way, we have both been committed to our marriage and have believed that we can work things out.

Most of us that go into a marriage have high hopes and beliefs in true love. However, according to research, only a minority of those marriages that last beyond the initial romantic stage (1-2 years) experience real deep love – many that stay together throughout life end up living parallel lives or simply endure.

When I got married I knew that most couples were not truly happy and that it was part of life. I also did not believe that the grass was greener on the other side. I accepted that marriage was going to be tough at times and I had no rosy expectations. I did not believe in the happy ever after story.

It has therefore been a positive surprise that we have managed to make our marriage work so well and that our relationship is as rewarding as it is. I am deeply grateful and happy for the fine relationship we have, the true love we feel, and for how amazingly rewarding it is to spend time with my dear husband (who by the way is maturing and just getting better for each year – I hope he would say the same about me).

If we are not mature when we enter into a marriage, but we last and feel happy and fulfilled in the relationship, these are clear signs that we have matured. That is what marriage can do to us. Without a willingness to grow, adapt and change a little to accommodate our partner, we will never experience the richness and reward that marriage can bring.

To arrive to the feeling that my husband probably is the best in the world has taken some time for me (after those initial years of passion…). Not to change him, but to truly appreciate him for who he is and all his amazing talents and gifts. He is an extraordinary man that I respect and value deeply. During our first years, after the initial romantic stage had passed, I was more frustrated about his weaknesses and what he was not, rather than being grateful for the great guy he was. How fun is it to live with someone who points out your weaknesses…?

What fills your up mostly about your spouse, his or her strengths or their weaknesses?