My husband and our daughter Olivia and I went on a spectacular ski safari in Vallée Blanch in Chamonix today. We did a 25km run with a 2700-meter vertical drop in the most breathtaking scenery with unbelievable glaciers in the Mont Blanc massif.
It was a real wow experience and we had the best time together!
One of the reasons we could enjoy our day to the fullest, was partly due to that I ‘cleared the air’ with Olivia.
I had picked up that Olivia was not her cheerful self and thought at first that her energy was a bit low due to being tired. It is not always easy to understand what is going on with our children while they are growing and developing.
The atmosphere between Olivia and I was a bit funky. I was missing our loving connection and seeing her being her happy energetic self.
When we arrived with the cable car at Aiguille du Midi at 3800 meter, and before descending down a steep and narrow ridge, which required focus, presence and concentration, I took the opportunity to talk to her and ask what was going on.
We both spoke from our hearts overlooking the massive gorgeous view. She shared that I had hurt her when I had reacted to something she had done earlier. I understood she felt hurt by my reaction, which I agree had been too strong – and I said the ‘three magic words’; “I am sorry.”
She accepted my apology and returned to being open and willing to receive my love and appreciation. A weight lifted off her shoulders as she shared openly with me. We re-connect and fully enjoyed the adventurous and beautiful day together.
I think that apologizing is hugely powerful and I very much agree with Lynn Johnston; “An apology is the superglue of life. It can repair about anything.”
I do not know how it is for you, but if I sense there is a lack of connection within my family and or with friends, I do not enjoy really what I am doing – before we have cleared the air. Therefore, I try as much as I can to communicate openly if I sense there is something going on limiting our ability to fully enjoy the moment.